I’ll Hit But I Won’t Make You Wifey




Before I begin this blog I will first start off my saying I am in no form or shape a relationship expert or authority. At the behest of a friend of mine I decided to do this post to shed some light into somewhat the male perspective is. This post doesn’t speak for all men and is just surface at best. I am just a guy who has made observations and has infused my personal opinions with them…..

In an earlier post ” Player for Life?…Naw” I talked about men wanting to settle down marry and/or be monogamous(To peep it click here). But what type of women is wifey? Every man has a hierarchy when it comes to the women they date. Men can be vain as shit and it can even reflect in the women a man chooses to be with on certain levels. The more powerful a man becomes the more vain he can become in his search for the one. A man may have sex with you and/or spend time with you but he may not wife you. It could be for various reasons that are personal to him. But, every man categorizes women(just as women do)

The types of women men categorize fall into four categories and they are like a totem pole. I will start from the bottom:

After 12 Before 6

This is the woman who can only come through during those hours and it is strictly a sexual situation. And even within that sexual situation it’s not even consistent. This man may 9 times out of 10 not even be attracted to this woman much and we never be seen out in public with her. His boys rarely know he is even messing with the woman and he may even lie to his friends for sometime that he has even had relations with said female. Men will find out months maybe even years later like…”Dawg remember Precious. Well on a weak drunken night back in 89 I hit….” If put in court on a witness stand the man will more than likely lie and commit perjury that he has had relations with the women.

Cut Buddy

This type of woman is a woman who he may have a strictly sexual encounters with but the woman maybe attractive and he may even hang out with her from time to time. A woman he categorizes like this he may think is generally attractive.  This man is more sexually attracted to her and doesn’t want to take any further than keeping things playful and fun with her. He doesn’t want it to be more than light-hearted and fun for whatever reason he has. A man may even have a verbal agreement with a woman to keep their relationship a “friends with benefits” situation. A woman may get caught in this and not want to but a man doesn’t care.

Homie Lover Friend

This class of woman who a man is attracted to, likes to be around, diggin her the whole-nine but for some reason its something about her that keeps him from wanting to have a true monogamous relationship with her. This is probably the hardest situation for most women to be in because this woman will get all the perks of being what every woman wants to be….The Wifey! He will make you feel like you are a potential wifey with all the trimmings but he just doesn’t want to be with you for whatever reasons. A man maybe have looked at this wifey material at some point but decided against it. Most of the time women get caught in this kind of relationship purgatory with a man. He may even change his mnd after some time about a woman being a Homie Lover Friend and upgrade her to…

P.W.( Potential Wifey) or Wifey

This is the creme de la creme group, the HBIC(Head Bitch in Charge) spot, the Queen of the hive, etc. This one fits his ideals that he holds true for one to be the main chick.  What is a potential wifey? It’s a woman whom you feel possesses certain qualities that qualifies her to be a model wife for you. Every man has different limits of what a wifey is. But she embodies whatever he wants to represent himself. There is no way totally know what a man truly wants unless you ask him. I am not saying tailor yourself to any man definitely be yourself . But, you also have to know his standards as well. For instance most of the brothas I know are real big on a chick being able to and wanting to cook for them. A woman who does that or is willing to do that will have a higher chance of getting said man.

Well there it goes…The four types of women that a man categorizes women in. The thing about this totem pole is that a woman can move up or down on this scale. But the tricky part is that is easier to fall down the totem pole than it is to rise. Now these particular types of women can change from man to man. The caliber of women who are put in each can even change depending on the status, money, and power the man has. But that is for another post to come….The Marcus Graham Condition.

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