A brotha is hanging out with his friends at a  swank bar with some of his boys having a few drinks. A few girls come into the bar and have a drink. The brotha wants to go talk to her but he is mad nervous. He talks shit to his boys about it and he gets the confidence to go over there and talk to her. He walks over and buys the sista a drink and starts to talk to her. After talking for a little bit the woman gives the brotha her phone number. A few weeks pass and one of his boys ask about the girl from the bar. He retorts, “Forget her! She thinks she fly!” But in the back of his hand he still wouldn’t mind having a piece of her Noncie.

In a previous post where I talk about my lessons from Bishop Magic Don Juan (see here) and in the post I talk a lot about the male ego. The Male Ego can be the most fragile thing in the world more fragile than a Victorian vase. Every man has different ranges and sensitivity. Some can take more rejection than others, but overall a bruised male ego is like the Walls of Jericho tumbling down. The male ego can take a man to the highest levels and other times take a man to the lowest of lows. A man ego can gas them up into believe certain ideals or things going on around him exist. It can be the greatest boost for him or be his ultimate destruction.

The idea of the male ego is in many instances circles around Money, Power, Respect like The Lox said but the most important thing left is….WOMEN. For instance a man can be at a concert and a woman can pass by and touch the man’s arm. The same guy may turn to his boy and say “You see how ole girl touched my arm I think she wanna get at me.” As silly as that scenario may sound every guy has mistaken a woman’s actions as potential advances.

Many men will take any attention from a woman and misconstrue it to be sexual attention. This is because we love to have any inclining of getting some sort of end game…the Noncie!!(Swap pussy, coochie, camel toe, whatever slang term you wish).  Men are carnally moved by women because of once again…the Noncie!  They say the Noncie is undefeated World Heavyweight Champion of the world.

Most men won’t admit it but 80% of the things we do in our life is for the admiration of a woman (or women depending on the playa). I am not saying dudes are walking around just pandering after women all day BUT men instinctively want to make themselves look better in some light for attention from a woman. It’s the same principle as animals in the wild. The strongest lion with the best looking mane gets the most lionesses. The ram that has the strongest horns and is able to defeat other rams in battle get the most mating.

A lot of dudes maybe scrunching their face up reading this but let’s keep it real. Think about the many things you do consciously or subconsciously to impress women. The Benz you copped last summer, the bottles you are always trying to pop in the club, the brand new suit you bought for Easter. We can say we do all these things for ourselves but if women were linking dudes in dump trucks, buying buckets of Bud Light, and men who wore dickey suits you couldn’t stop brothas from doing it.

The male and ego and women go hand in hand in many facets. The reason a woman can mean so much to a man is because the age-old ideal of that the woman on your arm is a reflection on who you are as a man. The more on point a woman is (egotistically or not) the more successful a man will feel . Let’s go back to the money, power, and respect notion. Think about it; all the things like money, power, and respect feeds the average males’ ego and is it not funny that these things are also the bait that many women in the world want??

Think about how many kingdoms, dynasties, governments, businesses, and friendships have been lost because of the Noncie? Let’s not even talk about in the broad sense. I know men who have driven over four hours just in the hopes of getting some NONCIE. How many men have thrown tons of their money away in hopes of gaining the admiration of women? How many men have changed their whole persona because of a woman? How many men have gotten a tattoo of their chick’s name on them only to break-up with them three months later? How many men have spent their whole check at the strip club in hopes of getting a lil’ sick duck in “The Champagne Room“? How many men have gotten so NONCIE whipped that they would come to the club in your house shoes and robe looking for “Karen”? How Many men consistently mess with Karrine “Superhead” Steffans, Kat Stacks, and the like knowing their M.O. and how they get down?

A man has always wanted to get the attention of the opposite sex and the NONCIE but the idea is what lengths is a man  willing to go? The average man will flow to the whims of what they deem the general populace of women are looking for in a man. This is because some men are totally governed by the NONCIE. Some men believe doing these things make them Alpha Males when in turn they are Beta males dressing up like they are strong and leaders (Alpha Males) when they only placate to what is needed to get the NONCIE.

I am not saying there is a problem with a man being enthralled with a woman especially a woman they love or care for. But, the man who is able to recognize that he is controlled somewhat by the NONCIE will always be able to have is ego in check and be able to make more rational decisions. Every man is drawn by the powers and essence of a woman but when a main is able to see outside the confines of a woman just being prey or NONCIE is only when a man will be able to truly find the definition or a life partner or mate.

Shout out to Ryan Stewart of the 2 Live Stews for coining the word NONCIE…

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