Last week I was honored to have a guest post from Jamala Mete (@SimplyMilele) entitled “Why Can’t You Change a Ho Into a Housewife”. The post had a great discussion on everything from a woman being virginal to the double standard of men being able to sow their wild oats and women not being able to. I actually agree with Jamala in her post that a man CAN change a Ho into a housewife but the fact of the matter is a lot of this changing as to do with a man’s ego.
The moniker “You Can’t Change a Ho into a Housewife” comes from the pimps and playas. The term ho itself was one regulated for the pimps and prostitutes not the square world. But, since we are becoming more embedded in society the term “ho” and “hoish” actions have spilled over into the square sector of life. What they meant by the saying is that a woman who has been on the track (prostituting) cannot by reformed because she will always have that itch to go make money and prostitute. The idea is that the woman or “ho” would always belong to “the game”. (I actually learned some of this and a lot more “The Night Bishop Don Juan Taught Me Some things about Love”)
The idea of what a ho is so subjective and depends on the man’s values, ego, and acceptance. There is a big difference between a woman display whorish behavior and a woman who is expressing themselves sexually. I was asked what number is too many men that a woman can have sex with before you consider her a ho and “unhousewifable”? I am actually pretty liberal in the terms of how many men a woman could have slept with. I know there are some brothas who think that anything over the number 1(or insert whatever number they feel) is too many. I really don’t have much of an issue with what a woman has done in her past but I understand that the changing a “ho into a housewife” may only be able to be applied in theory.
There are a few things I feel are that can be deemed as things that would constitute a woman being a ho and don’t being able to upgrade to “housewife status” or as I like to call it wifey status. My reasons range from the things my ego cannot handle to what I feel are character flaws.
Getting a Train Ran on You by the North Carolina Starting 5
This should be self-explanatory but I will delve into this idea a bit. The college experience was one that was grandiose and I learned a lot about myself and the world. One of the biggest thing I learned in college was I WOULD NEVER TAKE A WOMAN SERIOUSLY WHO HAD A TRAIN(Train- A woman having multiple partners in the same night back to back within a few hour period) RAN ON THEM. I just can’t do it between the football team, basketball team, frat boys, and just plain old Joe Blows on campus I cannot swallow the notion that the chick I am dealing with was clutching multiple dicks at the same time scatting on them like Ella Fitzgerald. How do you look like rolling through the mall holding hands with the chick cats call…”the defensive back”
Sleeping with Multiple Boys in My Crew
This one is a touchy situation. I understand especially with the world being our oyster the likelihood of friends dating the same person has drastically increased than in the past. We all may end up in a situation where some friends may have dated a woman before us. A woman can be attracted to more than one of the homies and maybe even smashed one but the thing I cannot come to grips with if you have tiddlywinked with multiple dudes in my circle. How you gonna talk to your boys about certain stuff and they all sitting there asking you did she do “The Smurf”. Even worse would be if she never has done “The Smurf” and you don’t know what the hell it is.…see my point.
A Woman who has been on the Track
This dives right into the reason the term from the pimps “You can’t change a Ho into a Housewife” comes into play. I cannot grasp my mind around the aspect that my lady was on Hookers at the Point in ’99 or Pimpin Ken’s “bottom bitch”(bottom bitch- A pimp’s main whore or main lady). I understand the reason and maybe even have need for prostitution or strippers but do I want to be with a woman who has the “track mentality”. A woman who has prostituted her body (throw in stripper, porn star, or any woman who sleeps with men for personal or financial gain) has a different perspective on life. Many prostitutes and strippers look at a man as nothing more than a trick. A woman in that game has been socialized to look at men as john’s or tricks. Can a woman who has been in the game for years turn that off the idea of wanting money or looking at me as just a means to an ends? I was always taught if you are a “square” that you should stay in the “square” side of life so I couldn’t see myself changing someone in to the “square biz” that doesn’t really have “square biz” in them.
I mean you have to admit I am pretty care-free and open about what I deem as ho right? The reasons I really don’t dig any of these ideals at the end of the day has to do with the woman’s favorability at making bad life decisions. There reasons aren’t too bad for not wanting to turn a ho into a housewife right?
What do you think about my thoughts about changing a Ho into a Housewife?
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- Basic B*tch Levelology (verysmartbrothas.com)
- Bish You Wasn’t With Me When Nepa Took The Light (brotherswithnogame.com)
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