A break-up is never good and is something we all never intend to deal with when we get into a relationship with someone. The end of relationships aren’t as simple as shaking hands with the person and waving good-bye. Many times there are idiotic things people do when in that emotional state. Now with the advent of social media the break-up can be heightened to another level. Not only can you simply just gripe to your friends about your break-up but also to the 1,472 twitter followers you have as well. Welcome to the new age break-up via Twitter and Facebook.
In an earlier tandem post Battle of the Sexes: Social Networking and Relationships we discussed how social networking has made many of us alter the way we look at our relationships in the public domain. But, right when I think I have seen everything when it comes to social networking scorn between Joe Budden and Esther Baxter makes me shake my head.
If you are unaware the rapper Joe Budden and the video vixen/model Esther Baxter have had a high-profile break-up and beef over twitter the past week. A break-up and a few subliminal shots over twitter no big deal right? The difference with this public break-up is this couple has more than just a few shots. They are dropping bombs on each other. They are arguing publicly over personal issues within their relationship: infidelity, physical abuse, and pregnancy via the internet. Joe Budden even went as far to make a 6 minute song talking about his ex-girl friend while Esther Baxter does “interviews” with online gossip sites such as Bossip. If you want to read their twitter war you can check it out here.
This is nothing new to see celebrity (and I mean celebrity in Joe Budden and Esther Baxter very loosely here) couples go through public break-ups in the media. But, now it seems like any couple can go on twitter or Facebook and try to air each other out. It seems that we have regularly people trying to one up their ex through social networking. Social nNetworking has now given the common person a platform to air out their dirty laundry not just celebrities. A person can put their ex on blast by displaying pictures, letters, emails, and videos of their mate.
Artists have written and performed songs to talk about their heartache and pain in a relationship. In hip hop MCs have been no different talking about ill-relationships with women in song. Joe Budden’s though dropped a track that definitely let everyone know how he felt about Esther Baxter. He would drop the song “Ordinary Love Shit” where he would go in on Esther Baxter like a Terry McMillan would a man in a book. In particular the verse by Notorious B.I.G. on R. Kelly’s song “Be Happy” where he weaves lyrics that any person knows he is talking about his wife at the time Faith Evans. The track was always slick because Biggie was able to talk about relationship without it coming off trite.
From the male perspective I have to question Joe’s reasoning for going hard on a woman in a public domain like that. I was always told by the “old heads” that man shouldn’t be seen arguing with his woman in public. The reasoning behind this that a man should be able to not let his relationship angers be shown to the world because it shows the man has no control over his emotions. I certainly don’t know their whole relationship dynamic but I can say with definite thought that Joe Budden hasn’t gone through anything with this woman that any other man hasn’t gone through with a woman. It shows a lot of bitchassness in Joe Budden to sit there to take his relationship woes to twitter and sit there arguing with a woman over social media. I am not excusing a woman doing a social media relationship rant but a man should be able to keep his mental/emotional faculties a bit more in check. We all go through stuff in relationships. Every man has been cheated on and done wrong but is there a need to social media and tell the world about every intricate detail of their relationship?
I have made it a personal preference of mine to make my social media experience as least personal intrusive as possible. I may talk about a few things in a general state but I will not display too many of love triumphs and defeats(except in the Marcus Graham Chronicles) out of not only respect for myself but also for the women that enter my life. I will not subscribe to these things just for a preventive maintenance for a potential Joe Budden/Esther Baxter situation cannot brew. I just come from the school that the less rope I give the less you can really hang me with it.
At the end of what does going hard on your ex on twitter do for you? Does it really give you any satisfaction to know you showed up @tasteyfreeze in 140 characters or less? Does it make you feel any better to know you had 26 people Like the fact you went off on James Evans on Facebook? Every day we go through different things that will cause us heartache and pain but it is how we deal with these situations that will show our strength as a man or woman. But, I guess social networking is now another way for us to get even more attention…
What do you think about public Twitter and Facebook Relationship meltdowns? Speak Your Piece!!
- Joe Budden Beds The BADDEST B*tches In Hip-Hop (dabxblogger.com)
- Joe Budden trying to be like Drake? Budden called out, responds (twitchy.com)
- Over 50% Of Men In Relationships Are Faking Orgasms – Here’s Why (thisisyourconscience.com)
- Why Success and True Love Always Seem to Misalign (singleblackmale.org)
- Rules of Engagement: Dealing with an Ex on Social Media (writerzblockblog.wordpress.com)
- Social Media Mishaps: How Networking Sites Have Screwed Up Relationships Even More (CCL: 23) (chocolatecoveredlies.com)
- E.Payne To Speak At Niche Mommy Social Media Conference (makesmewannaholler.com)