I was in a meeting yesterday and one of the presenters said that many of us when we align with something it is because of some sort of pain we are enduring or fearful of. It was very interesting how he wove the idea into how many companies sale and market themselves in that fashion. I began to think about how many of us reactive and live most of our lives out of fear instead of love. No wonder Niccolo Machiavelli believed that it is better to be feared than loved. Do we really work of more of fear than love? I explored the idea of Doing vs. Trying in “The Power of Doing Instead of Trying” and I have come to realize that fear maybe the ultimate factor in us doing instead of “trying”.
This past week I had to realize that we can’t worry about surviving but focus our life on living. I like anyone else has fears. What are my fears? I always joke about that I am only scared of three things in this world: God, the IRS, and the Gooch. The fear of the creator should be self-explanatory and I’m not even a religious brother more of agnostic theist to be honest. The IRS…how can you NOT fear the IRS? They will Take Everything like the Gerald Levert song. You are probably asking yourself the Gooch what the hell does that have to do with anything?
First of all lets put some of you all up on game who maybe slippin on their pimpin when it comes to 80s sitcoms. The Gooch is the bully who terrorizes Arnold(Gary Coleman) on Different Strokes. The thing about the Gooch was that was you never got to see the Gooch and would only see the fear Arnold had for him. Arnold spent a majority of the seasons of the show trying to figure out ways to beat, evade, and pacify the Gooch.
The Gooch to me is that ever-present unknown thing that we all are fearful of. “The Gooch” represents all of my pain and fear. We all have it from all the stress and strife we have gone through in this game we call life. We all have this “Gooch” that sits on us everyday and tries to stop or hinder us from evolving to be a better person. The question at the end of it all is how long will we let “The Gooch” continue to make our lives unproductive. “The Gooch” for you maybe never getting married or finding true love, being successful in your career, being a great parent, or even death itself. The Gooch will always haunt our lives but a question is how much are willing to fight to keep “the Gooch” at bay? Will your fear of “The Gooch” consume you so much that you do not love, go after your dreams, and become a better person?
Just a little something to think about…
But ya boy has been mad busy writing a lot not just for this blog but guesting on various others. My pen hand has stayed as tight as a pimps hand lately. If you have some time today you may want to check out these posts I have penned recently
“When Doves Cry: Our Personal Accountability in Relationships” via Black N Bougie
-Do we ever want to take accountability and onus for the things that have happen in our relationships or will we continue to blame everyone else instead of looking at the man/woman in the mirror?
Arsenio Hall: Unsung Hero of Hip Hop via Soultrain.com (Yep! The Don Cornelius Soul Train)
-Arsenio Hall is an intricate part of hip hop that is never really discussed much but his contribution to the art is leaps and bounds bigger than a lot of your favorite rappers
I have a lot more things I am working on that I will be unveiling on my blog soon so you definitely want to stay tuned…
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For some reason as a child, I couldn’t get into Different Strokes. That’s a show I never would recite or offer as one of my favorites – or close to. “The Gooch” idea is very prevalent. Most of the time we never even know they are there! I’m not worried about this Gooch. Just stay out of my way!
Congrats on the nominations and welcome to the Soul Train family! (Yes that one)
LOL!!! How you not get into the Different Strokes! But thanks for the congrats bruh!
Excellent write-up, my man. Yes, “The Gooch” can and will always be the killer of dreams. But is he a bad thing? Let’s see, if it wasn’t for “The Gooch” there’d probably be no lap dances, or the someone to utter the phrase “welcome to McDonald’s, can I take your order?” Like you, I’m not the “believer” type; I’m more of an apatheist: I don’t know and I don’t care. But that said, I think we have to give thanks to some higher power for lap dances and the dude who serves me up those Egg McMuffins that I love so much every morning…. failure is the shit, son!
BTW… Huge congrats on being on the Black Weblog Awards 2011 finalist ballot! I nominated and of course voted for you. I love what you’re doing; and yes a lurk a lot. Keep up the great work, brotha… the streets is watching.
LOL!!! Hillarious!! yeah folks don’t want to go down the road of agnostic theism though…lol!! But man thanks for the love man just building this little ship up here little by little
You had me with “The Gooch” . That is too damn funny, but how you explained it in a very serious manner is why your blog is on point. Good writing brother and don’t make me laugh so hard in the morning.
LOL! I’m with homie above! You dumb ass hell for The Gooch reference! But dope way of intertwining it to our fears though!
Good piece! Congrats on the Black Weblog Awards nomination!
Thanx man!! I appreciate it!!
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This was soooo funny D! But you really did display your point well about overcoming our fears! Love it!!
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