Every man has a few idiosyncrasies when it comes to getting down in the sack. We have already discussed how most men are driven by the sex in “Girl You Aint Fly…But It’s Something About Your Noncie.” The situation gets even deeper when it comes to male egotism and women. One of the myriad of things men like to hear when thronxing (shout out to @MaxFab) is the proverbial call and response:
“Yeah baby…Who’s Is it?”
“…..Yours daddy! Yours!”
Every brotha has done that more than a time or two while laying it down! Oh, come on now! I know I’m not the only one who digs that right?! There are dudes right now cheesing and nodding their heads now because they know they have done it at least once or do it regularly.
Many of us are conditioned to be ego driven since birth. Men, in particular, have a weird relationship between sex and ego. One of the biggest ego driven things men indulge in is the idea that a woman’s noncie is somehow our possession. Though the kinky exchange is great for the sexual exchange, some men take the idea of the noncie being “theirs” to the point of irrationality. Think about it like this: How can her noncie be “yours” when it is a part her body? The irony is that the convoluted thinking of some men tricks their minds into believing a woman is their possession–so much they cannot conceive that she can give up that cookie to anyone else. Many men do not want to hear this BUT…”You do not own the noncie”. I’ll give you a moment to let that sink in. Maybe you are renting it for the night, leasing it during a relationship, or maybe even co-oping it with another brotha in Cleveland.
The idea of owning the noncie is closely related to the ego because most men associate their woman with their confidence. For example, a man can have broken up with a woman and totally moved on. He will still feel some kind of way that his ex is thronxing T-Bone Jenkins. Then, to put more of a spin on this, the ex-man may even try to spit back at the woman. The messed up part of the game is that he may not even really want to be with her, but his ego wants to see if he the noncie is still his (to be fair, I know some women who do this as well). Now the woman in this situation may be fully be aware that the game spitting is strictly just a throwback situation, BUT what she honestly believes ol’ dude when he tells her that he wants to get back with her? Remember, he knows that he really just wants to see if he’s still got her “noncie” on lockdown. It develops a really jacked up dynamic and potentially volatile love triangle all because of ego. How many times have you seen two men fight or even die over arguing over the “noncie” being theirs?
“The Night The Bishop Magic Don Juan Taught Me About Love” one of the things he said to me was “Most men aren’t in love their pride is just hurt.” This has presented itself so many times throughout my life. It’s like sometimes as men we get so caught up in the notion of “having” the woman that we don’t even recognize when it’s not true love, but our ego. If you are able to recognize that the woman really allows you to partake of the “noncie” and that you are not entitled to it, then some of your ego will dissipate. Your woman can, and will, go get with another dude if she wants too! You Don’t Own The Noncie…she does! If she believes that you are not giving her what she needs (whether wrong or right) she WILL take the noncie somewhere else. When we feel we own a person instead of being in a cooperative movement with the person, we will ALL be setting ourselves up for some sort of relationship failure.
So, next time you are thronxing in heavy passion and you ask her “Whose’s Is It?” Know that it is yours…but only for right now
Ladies I haven’t forgotten about y’all either. Just because the noncie is yours doesn’t mean its smart to ration out the noncie within a relationship either…because if you aint thronxing him then who is?…. But you know that that will just have to wait till the Next Episode!
(Shout out to photographer Maurice Young for putting some nuggets on my head for this post!)