Every man has a few idiosyncrasies when it comes to getting down in the sack. We have already discussed how most men are driven by the sex in “Girl You Aint Fly…But It’s Something About Your Noncie.” The situation gets even deeper when it comes to male egotism and women. One of the myriad of things men like to hear when thronxing (shout out to @MaxFab) is the proverbial call and response:
“Yeah baby…Who’s Is it?”
“…..Yours daddy! Yours!”
(silence)
Every brotha has done 
that more than a time or two while laying it down! Oh, come on now! I know I’m not the only one who digs that right?! There are dudes right now cheesing and nodding their heads now because they know they have done it at least once or do it regularly.
Many of us are conditioned to be ego driven since birth. Men, in particular, have a weird relationship between sex and ego. One of the biggest ego driven things men indulge in is the idea that a woman’s noncie is somehow our possession. Though the kinky exchange is great for the sexual exchange, some men take the idea of the noncie being “theirs” to the point of irrationality. Think about it like this: How can her noncie be “yours” when it is a part her body? The irony is that the convoluted thinking of some men tricks their minds into believing a woman is their possession–so much they cannot conceive that she can give up that cookie to anyone else. Many men do not want to hear this BUT…”You do not own the noncie”. I’ll give you a moment to let that sink in. Maybe you are renting it for the night, leasing it during a relationship, or maybe even co-oping it with another brotha in Cleveland.
The idea of owning the noncie is closely related to the ego because most men associate their woman with their confidence. For example, a man can have broken up with a woman and totally moved on. He will still feel some kind of way that his ex is thronxing T-Bone Jenkins. Then, to put more of a spin on this, the ex-man may even try to spit back at the woman. The messed up part of the game is that he may not even really want to be with her, but his ego wants to see if he the noncie is still his (to be fair, I know some women who do this as well). Now the woman in this situation may be fully be aware that the game spitting is strictly just a throwback situation, BUT what she honestly believes ol’ dude when he tells her that he wants to get back with her? Remember, he knows that he really just wants to see if he’s still got her “noncie” on lockdown. It develops a really jacked up dynamic and potentially volatile love triangle all because of ego. How many times have you seen two men fight or even die over arguing over the “noncie” being theirs?
“The Night The Bishop Magic Don Juan Taught Me About Love” one of the things he said to me was “Most men aren’t in love their pride is just hurt.” This has presented itself so many times throughout my life. It’s like sometimes as men we get so caught up in the notion of “having” the woman that we don’t even recognize when it’s not true love, but our ego. If you are able to recognize that the woman really allows you to partake of the “noncie” and that you are not entitled to it, then some of your ego will dissipate. Your woman can, and will, go get with another dude if she wants too! You Don’t Own The Noncie…she does! If she believes that you are not giving her what she needs (whether wrong or right) she WILL take the noncie somewhere else. When we feel we own a person instead of being in a cooperative movement with the person, we will ALL be setting ourselves up for some sort of relationship failure.
So, next time you are thronxing in heavy passion and you ask her “Whose’s Is It?” Know that it is yours…but only for right now
Ladies I haven’t forgotten about y’all either. Just because the noncie is yours doesn’t mean its smart to ration out the noncie within a relationship either…because if you aint thronxing him then who is?…. But you know that that will just have to wait till the Next Episode!
(Shout out to photographer Maurice Young for putting some nuggets on my head for this post!)
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This was funny as hell but ironically soooooooooooooooo true!! You hit the nail on the head with this one D!! Dudes love to think the nani is strictly theirs expecially when they not even acting right!
This was hilarious and so on point…i have new vocabularies for the day. The video was classic torture but hey it worked back then…wow..Love the insight…
This article reminds me of a post that circulated around Myspace about different “types” of noncies and a guy telling me that the “type” I had was “the conquered noncie.” I asked him to elaborate and in short, it’s “a noncie a man has tried to thronx for years and finally got it” and he concluded with saying, “that’s the best noncie.” I love your terms by the way. So, it kinda made me feel weird knowing that there is a complex system of noncie “types” out there, and not just the “it’s mine” noncie. I think you should take this a step further and explain why men think it’s okay to tell a woman during thronxing that he wants her to have his baby…..
LOL!!!! Yo son! Why you gotta make me think the pussy aint mine! But you brought up some great points in post! Can’t wait to hear the one about chicks fraudulently withholding puss!!
GREAT post. It was so dead on with everything I believed about men, sex, and their ego. As a woman, the who’s is it, question is laughable with my friends. but as his partner, I know that my job is to make him feel like he’s in the best moment of his life. The funny thing about it, if I say “not yours” he will more than likely go out of his way, damn near heart attack, to make me feel it. I am AMAZED at the power between a woman’s thighs.
Men should also realize if they are on a sex ration, she’s feeling some kind of way about him. More than likely, who he is getting it from is not on her mind at all. Some other man just may be dividing his “Noncie”
I disgaree! I think a chick can be egotstical to think they can withhold the cookie think that the dude will stay around because “this cookie” got him. They are either naive, selfish, or maybe like you said giving up the goods somewhere else. Yo! D thats the next post right there! “This Cookie Got Him Sprung”>
I do like that post name consider it jacked…or recieved! Whatever way you want to look at it! LOL!!
Hey I’m just saying, if u my man and I’m holding out. You need to figure out the problem. Now I wouldn’t not give it up for no reason. I realize the power in it AND the fact that men will do some stupid things for not getting it. The walls must obviously be paved in coke. LOL
Lol! We have to be careful about our “ownership” of the vagina even during sexual intercourse because many men have a problem ending that “ownership” at the conclusion of sexual intercourse.
Two things:
1. Women talk about this kind of thing ALL the time this is why my girls will definitely get a kick out of this
2. Dig, either you are one lucky bastard to think about it from this level or have a very insightful view on women. Either way great job!
Yo Dig!! Love this blog!!! Do ya thang…just had a convo with a friend on this topic!!!
This blog was all that and a bag of Cool Ranch Doritos. Great Post! Men always want to claim your ish even when they’ve already moved on. They wanna know they still have rights in case one night they get lonely and they have no one to call. Most women fall for it too because they think, he must still have feelings or something.
Women need to learn to keep their pocketbook closed to a man that didn’t even want to stick it out with her in the first place. He’s running game and you’re allowing that fool to brag how he still got you. Penis ain’t that special.
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First off, I can’t get past Melvin Riley. Lowkey, this song/video was my shizz back in the day. I used to want a checkered bra/pantie set like ol girls…
This is a great post. Very interesting and very true, to a certain extent.
You’re definitely right about men thinking that they own a woman…especially her treasure. But there is no doubt that the only one who is entitled to ownership to it is the women. No man can ever own a woman’s treasure…unless of course she sells it to him…but how often or how likely is that to happen?
Personally, I can say that I’ve always known that I don’t own a woman and especially not her treasure. Sure we may be in a relationship, but that doesn’t mean that she is mine. She isn’t a slave, a piece of property or an asset. So, I know that I don’t own her. The way I see it is like this: If you can’t CONTROL something…then you DON’T OWN IT.
I know that I can’t control a woman…nor would I want to. So by default, I can’t control her treasure…nor is it solely mine. Of course when I commit to a relationship it is my hope that my woman isn’t sharing HER treasure with anyone else. Just like she hopes that I’m not sharing what I have with other women. Yet at the end of the day, she doesn’t own me and I don’t own her.
Unfortunately, not every man is keen to this fact. That’s exactly why men get caught up fighting and kill over a woman…over a woman’s treasure…over something they don’t own. Now the question a man has to ask himself is this: Are you willing to fight or die for something that you don’t OWN?
I know I’m not!
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I’m glad this was all inclusive cuz I know a few women who think just as irrationally as men about sexual property. Me and my homegirl talk about it all the time!
Excellent points! However, some women like when a man acts like he owns it because you always treat your own possessions better than others!