In a post I wrote a few weeks ago “Who’s is It?….Not Yours” I wrote about the misconception of men believing they “own” a woman’s noncie (aka vagina). You know the proverbial, “that’s my ish right there” sentiment some men have. Within my comments section there was somewhat of a debate over women who withhold the noncie from a man. It was actually an interesting debate. One of the commenters, Chris Renee (@AuthorChrisRene), had an interesting perspective when it comes to men being “rationed” sex from a woman. I think that a woman who practices this or does hold out is potentially setting themselves up for disaster. But, I am going to let Chris take the floor and give her perspective on the topic as my guest poster this week. I mean, I did have a lot to say when I wrote about the After The Orgasm and a man’s moment of clarity so why shouldn’t we get the woman’s perspective on giving up the noncie or lack there of?
How many times have you gotten yourself worked up thinking about your woman all day? It’s been a few days since you last got it in and you have a few new moves or two that will have her undoubtedly screaming, “its yours baby, all yours” (feel free to insert eye roll here). You hurry through dinner, rush through the shower, and eagerly you reach the bedroom only to find her asleep. Or God forbid she threw on the granny panties and hair bonnet. You’re now perplexed on how she missed your not so subtle signs of animalistic desires. There MUST be someone else, at least that’s what your ego tells you.
Let’s face it, most men (I didn’t say all so chill out) are too arrogant to admit that they are the actual problem. That’s right, you aren’t getting any because, you sir have dropped the ball somewhere. There’s not a conspiracy going on that your woman is involved in. In fact, if you were to slow your roll you could probably see exactly where you went wrong. Contrary to popular belief, women don’t want to use sex as a weapon. We enjoy sex as much as men do (if not more). Women are just better at turning the light switch off.
Sex for most women is not just about how long a man is hanging. It’s a spiritual and emotional connection. I can’t get my groove on (even though I know how bad I want it) if thoughts of your stupidity is clouding my mind. It’s not a malicious attack on your manhood sweetie. Women don’t all read the same handbook and decide Chapter 1. Vagina Should be Used as Weapon Of Mass Destruction, as our personal guide.
However, women (from the church girl to video vixen) are aware that men will do absolutely ANYTHING for a shot at it. You don’t have to admit it out loud, but how many miles as a teenager did you walk for some? As a man, how many times have you low-key stalked a woman because you wanted some? Once the actual spell has worn off, how many times have you set alone shaking your head at yourself? You won’t say it but you are in fact, a pussy for pussy. Now you are knee-deep in your feelings. This woman has something you desire and its now wrapped in attitude and the dreaded period panties (ALL men hate those). Your main question should not be, why she acting stupid with the snatch? But more so, what did I do to make her feel this way? (go ahead and roll your eyes, but how will that help your blue balls?) What can I do to make this better?
For starters, acknowledge her feelings (preferably done without you tugging at her undies). Talk the problem out (but don’t try and jump her bones immediately after). The key to the locked goodies is simply, communication. If you’ve done all that and she still won’t give it up…… Jody’s Got Your Girl and Gone (that’s a blues song for all you 90′s babies.)