So, I received a letter and comment from a brotha in reference to a guest post from Jamala Mete(@SimplyMilele) “Why Can’t You Change a Ho Into a Housewife?” and my response piece “You Can Change a Ho Into a Housewife…In Theory”. It and interesting a very compelling email asking for some advice. I figured let’s put it out here in the open forum and see what the readers from Ashy to Classy Think. Check it out…
I was doing a Google search on “What if my wife was a ho before we married?”; which brought me here. I’m in flux currently due to my wife and me sharing our sexual conquests while we were friends, yet I was attracted to her, we just didn’t know where it would go with the distance involved. Once we exchanged our love w/ one another, it seems that we were married instantly.
This woman is great to me, emotionally I feel complete in regard to her attention to my needs whether it’s making me lunch before I travel on a business trip, massaging my feet, allowing me to be the LEADER of the house, and sex on command. Yet now our marriage is being affected by my philosophy of women being skeezed, multiple lovers, and her being ok with sharing her body with various men whether it was for a term or a one time only.
One story in particular involved her meeting a guy on Blackplanet that just happened to be an actor that has acted in a few movies shortly after she ended a 4 year relationship because of her ex-boyfriends infidelity. She liked that that her newfound friend was funny, which invited them to engage in conversation and of course the classic, exchange penis shots to her boob shots. They spoke of sex, including her appreciation of giving fellatio. After a few months of flirting and talking, she eventually drove to visit her friend.
Now folks, this is where it gets freaky, creepy, and crazy. She was convinced to bring a bottle of GIN by the crib, yet upon arrival he was serving her a different drink instead of the one she brought. As the story goes, she passed out to awaken hours later to him nudging her to wake up. then, he convinced her to give him head. Not only did she do it once, but she did it 3 times for this guy. She left the next day, yet she felt that her intentions weren’t to go over there for oral sex or sexual activities but just to visit. She’s convinced she was drugged which makes sense because i had to help her put the pieces together and my knowledge of date-rape drugs(only because I was a bartender which forced me to become knowledgeable of roofies and GHB). also, I know my wife isn’t a fan of being nude, giving oral w/out a condom(initially) and kissing just anybody, to which she performed while being in a euphoric, dreamlike state from the drugs. also she never finished her own drink yet she felt as if she drank a bottle.
Now, she never went back nor engaged in multiple conversations with this creep, but 3 days later she fucked a guy that she kinda liked. Now, I’m like “Wow!” After she and her new friend didn’t work, a month or so later she goes back to the actors house because she kinda believed she was just sleepy while chalking up her giving him head as just her getting caught up in the moment. This time she didnt drink alcohol, yet he presented her with a drink that he said was non-alcoholic though she said it had a funny taste. She had a few sips that eventually he took the glass away. Next she said she was sitting on the couch, turned around to see what this creep wanted to be presented with a DICK in her face that she sucked! When I asked her why, all she could say is that she doesn’t know, to the point she felt like it was dream and she said he stopped her to kiss, then proceeded to put his penis in her mouth. She said as she performed fellatio, she closed her eyes then saw a flash. This jerk took a pic of her yet lied about it. Next thing she knows she passed out to awaken w/ her boobs out.
Folks, she told me the generic story as “friends”, yet now the truth had to come out because of her being stalked and pics of her on the NET! Not to mention she feels horrible about it. Now, since us MEN use logic, I told her that a small dosage of these drugs don’t actually force u to do anything but just relaxes/dehibits one to do sexual and passionate acts. I am so disturbed that my wife experienced this though since the guy is a actor is a business associate, he has told me since he knows we’re together how much my WIFE loves to give head and that she was going nuts on his penis. She stated to me that she thought his penis was cute and that she didnt mind having a go at it, but that should be her decision instead of being influenced by these drugs.
My next question to her is”Why did you go a second time?” She said cause she gave him the benefit of the doubt. Now the thoughts of her sucking off a close associate of mine permeates through our relationship to the point that our young marriage is on the rocks. I do try to remain liberal, non-judgmental, and understanding yet from this story down to the first ones, I’m starting to believe my wife was a little to free and that she was a ho. Not to mention, she was really upset not with that she gave head, but that she received nothing i return to make her cum like intercourse, oral, or finger fucking.
Please help me because I’m lost!
What do you think about the letter? What is your advice to this brotha??
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