Social Networking has taken over the world as we know it. There seems to be a big shift in the way we interact within online lives transcending into our daily lives. I even talked about before how relationships have become avenues for attention whoring and insecurity(see The New Age Break up via Twitter and Facebook) There are statistics out that say African-Americans compromise 25% of the twitter users while we only compile 12% of the population. There is even a section of twitter called “black twitter” that has its own dynamics that seem to be similar to the comparison to many parts of the contemporary black experience. This weeks guest post goes into some of the dialogue condoned on black twitter. Jasmine Powers(@jasminepowers) of CulturedGirlsOnly isn’t new to From Ashy to Classy she was last here with her post “Sistas Who’s Checkin For Ya?” . This time she writes a letter to black twitter that comes a very personal place and one we may need to be cognizant of even though social networking can be all fun and games.
There’s only one word that expresses my emotion at present. Confused. I’m trying to understand why there’s this thing called cyberbullying and mostly, why it’s happening amongst Black Twitter against other black people on Twitter. Black tweet on tweet crime. Who does that? Quite a few of you do.
I’m not a huge tweeter about social issues and I stay away from controversy on Twitter like it’s the plague. Most look at my account and determine, I’m a fun-loving, off the cuff, PR girl, blogger and artist. You won’t find me dissing folks often (I do, just not often, and it’s usually about Tyrese’s misspelled words). Don’t pay me any mind.
Today, unlike any other day, I tweet, then check my mentions and lo and behold three black guys who I’ve never knew existed began tweeting about how ugly they thought I was. The confusion began there. How did these guys even know who I am? I’m not a well-known content publisher. How did I come under their radar?
I shot back, lightly and trying to play along at first and then by trying to turn the tables logically on them. Eventually, they stopped, perhaps after I called attention to the sadness in that they said I looked like a few well known primates. Later, I got hit with, “Whoever said black is beautiful must’ve never seen @jasminepowers”. Wait, what? I ended with a note to the ringleader, “Brother. You do know that we were compared to monkeys and ppl just like you were hung from trees even recently. Stoppit.”
Check it. Those involved were highly educated black Greeks, both men and women. I may’ve expected it from Lil Wayne, but them? Maybe from white supremacists, but them? Someone who I’d had done something to, but them? *Scratches head, sighs, and sinks into my chair.*
Rewind about two weeks. The most outrageous offense of both cyberbullying (even proliferation of child pornography) occurred with the Amber Cole deal. I’d been silent on it mostly because peoples comments about her, oral sex, the guys in the vid, and the grown behind men happily excited by the vid made me want to vomit. I had to log off for the night.
Are we as a group okay with behaving in such a manner when we are the same ones crying foul, racism, and fighting social causes for the advancement of black people? Are we as a group doing this and the next day tweeting some Joyce Myers or a Jesus quote? To that, I direct a collective, please sit yo black gluteus maximus down.
No, I’m not mad at everybody. I’m not really even mad at the guys who had fun at my expense. I’m just disappointed. We gotta do betta. At first, I was thinking, “Oh, I’m not angry.” Then that changed to, “I hate black men because they are the first ones saying that black women have bad attitudes but then do dumb stuff like this to incur a black woman’s wrath.” I shut that up really quickly because I ride for my brothers. I’d die for my brothers. I don’t want to be with anyone but a black brother but many times this is what I have gotten from black brothers.
Some of the most afrocentric, black-women-loving men will do dumb stuff to prove some type of deep seated hostility or at least behave disrespectfully towards a black woman, even if unintentional. Why? We love you? Why would you do that to us? By extension, when we voice our dissatisfaction about this, we then become “crazy”, called a female dog in heat, “Sapphire”, or any number of things, to help you prove your case that “black women aren’t worth dealing with or loving.” Yeah, I’m venting, but I need to. I’m okay if you give me those monikers or don’t choose to be with me because I have the angry-black-woman syndrome. I contracted it from you.
Sidebar: Black women who jump in and cosign because you like the guys who are doing this and want to get your brownie points, you too, sit yo black cheeks down. He’s going to disrespect you too.
*Sips Moscato. Inhales. Silently “woosahs”. Is there an end to cyberbullying or hostility toward black women? IDK. I hope so. I don’t want to be angry. I don’t want to carry hurt. I don’t want to throw black men into this category of disgusting filthiness never to be touched. No. Much behavior is to be ignored and individuals instead of entire groups can be expelled from my mind and presence. I guess I just wish for some to think a little bit more about what they are doing, adjust and reach out for excellence instead of falling into the same negligible, inferior mindset.
I’m no angel. I will never be. I am humble, ready to learn and be corrected where I must. Please help me understand this. What do I need to do? What do you need to do?
What do you think about Jasmine’s letter? And this aspect of “black twitter”. Chime in!!….
- Black Woman, Know Your Place: Cornel West Clings To His Privilege (racialicious.com)
- A Letter For the single black women (straightnocut.wordpress.com)
- The 40 Most Beautiful Black Women of All Time (Top 20) (ashy2classy.net)
- Dear BET: What Part of The Game Is Dissing Black Women? (clutchmagonline.com)
- Are Black Women More Accepting Of Cheating? Danielle Kimberly on Uptown Magazine (missaleck.com)
- It’s Not Black Women’s Fault, Or Is It? New Clutch Article Seems To Think So (singleblackmale.org)
- War of the Beauty: COINTELPRO on The Black Woman Pt.1 (ashy2classy.net)