A few weeks ago I was having a conversation with DJ Ay Eye (@ay_eye) and we were talking about hip hop in 2012. He said something that stuck out to me that seems to be across the board the aim of life. He said to me that most hip hop/rap artists don’t care anything about the money they really on care about the Fame. I sat back and thought about his statement and it may be something that has validity to it. Think about it the music industry on a mainstream level is a dead industry walking so if a person is so much about” money” as many rappers proclaim than why would they get into the rap game now. It all comes back to….FAME! The concept becomes something we begin to see across the board when it comes to many of our lives. We live to have FAME instead living for success and fulfillment. Some of us simply just want to be known and have no other aspirations besides being someone people talk about or want to talk to.
Society since the beginning of time has been one of people wanting some form of recognition for accomplishing something. We all want to be known for something among our peers and those we respect within our communities. Are you really looking for success and fulfillment or do you just want the FAME? Most people will say they will take money or success over fame but do we really act in such a way. Many of us scrounge for the opportunity to just be known at any cost (Look at YouTube and reality TV) but do we really look to understand the process to achieve success?
I do not like the man who squanders life for fame; give me the man who living makes a name. -Emily Dickinson
There are so many people I have seen are engulfed in the fame of being someone to other people. Women aim to be as Tank called a “Star’s Girl” and men want to be considered in the 90s what we called a Big Willie even if their success doesn’t measure to their bravado. Just because you are famous doesn’t mean you have accomplished anything. You can be known just because you are out there but does that really mean you have achieved success? Now I am not into the game of quantifying what someone else success is and what they should consider success. For some people being famous is success but what happens when your 5 minutes of fame is gone is your life worth nothing without the fame? You can say you care about success and fulfillment more but do your actions in life align with working towards success or are the linear with the idea that you want fame? Fame is something easily attainted from just a few happenstance situations while success is something that is a combination of hard work, a few things breaking your way, and making some good decisions.
This is the thing about success it isn’t just within a financial situation it is the ability to see something you dreamed come to fruition. For instance success for you may need that you get your children through college, help building a community, or writing a book. The thing is that most of those things can give you solace at night that you accomplished. I am not also naive to the idea that some people’s idea of success can be making it rain weekly at Magic City, being the new member Basketball Wives or Love and Hip Hop, or even the newest edition to World Star Hip Hop lore. Are those things going to mean a damn 10, 20 years from now or will you just become a very small footnote of the past? While having some measurable amount of meaningful success will mean that you not only affected your life but those around you.
The thing I have found that the more you stay to who you are that success will happen and with success will come fame. Ask your self are you about that fame life or looking for success? If you are all about that fame life it can only hold you down for so long because you can only be “that dude” or the “it chick” for so long because time and age is the only thing we can’t control. Remember an old fool was once a young fool.
The talent of success is nothing more than doing what you can do well, and doing well whatever you do without thought of fame. If it comes at all it will come because it is deserved, not because it is sought after. -Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
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