The male ego can be a very intricate part of a man and his interactions with not only the world but the way he looks at himself. In the Marcus Graham Chronicles I have written freely about my male ego and emotions particularly in the realm of relationships. Ego in some cases pushes a man to cheat it some cases but can the past just be as big of culprit? This weeks guest post is one of my most favorite contributors to From Ashy to Classy. It is none other than Greg The Dragon of the Hall of the Black Dragon which I am sure is to start a bit of a discussion.
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Fun fact for the ladies: Men NEVER get over it.
Women hate on other women due to the chance that this other woman can easily “take their man” due to the upgrade potential right? This is what was relayed to me from a female colleague that I debated with as she explained why Angelina Jolie was public enemy number one for women after acquiring Brad Pitt as her beau. The way she explained it was that a man standing with his girl who is a 7 (8 if she really tries) on the looks scale can easily lose her man to a 10 who puts in the extra sex appeal and game to upgrade to a 15 – 
which (according to her) renders us men into to slobbing, drooling, helpless cheaters.
Brothers of the man race, this is how our women see it, and it is the reason why it is never okay for you to go hang with your childhood friend (who is a girl) that happens to look better than your girlfriend. It is also the reason why your wife automatically turned into a fire breathing dragon when she saw your co-worker who resembles Caterina Murino. We can’t win this fight but you know what I said to my colleague about this fear that women have of one another… it is their own damned fault.
Pikachu, I Choose You! Bad Boy Loser!
For every guy that has suffered from losing out to a bad boy, or a rough around the edges type, there is a man who grows up with a little bit of darkness in his heart. True story. Men are like elephants when it comes to relationship bruises but I swear it sits in our subconscious as opposed to our conscious thought. This is why some men (the few, the proud) can overcome the hurt and become loyal husbands, boyfriends, whatever. Most men are governed by our inner puppy… the puppy that grows with every single rejection, insult, observance of misandry, and tutorship from dire wolves. If a man has a big beastly dog in his subconscious, then when the time comes to decide whether his actions will hurt his lady in lieu of conquering, he will choose to become a slayer.
An emotional man remembers the slights, he sees the chance to upgrade as a chance to upgrade. It’s like the hip hop song by MC Breed “why have a 9 when I can have a 10 if she ain’t licking up the nuts then I’m a holler at her friend” – vulgar yes but dudes do think like this! That is the feed
back from a man who does not respect the trust in a relationship, does not trust the “sanctity of marriage” and could give a damn about a woman’s feelings because he does not care.
Women are afraid of this and they very well should because if there’s a chance to play with a dime and you are a man who hasn’t even sampled one at a strip club your mind is going to screw with you hardcore! Sure some good guys are happy enough with the attention so that they can brag about it to their friends “dude she was totally into you!” but a man with that dog in his heart! He wants to get in her right then and there because he feels like the gods granted him a once in a lifetime opportunity and he would be a fool not to take it.
Are men naturally cheaters… or making up for lost time?
Why do you think so many powerful men kick up thousands of dollars for some hush-hush sex with a dime-piece prostitute? They were nerds in the past who couldn’t score that, plus they were denied by so many women up until they had money that now it’s almost like they are owed the booty. They aren’t thinking about what their wives would feel if she found out, they just want to exploit the opportunity so that they can brag to their grandsons “boy your granddaddy used to get it in with some of the finest women alive”.
It’s as if life brings about a cypher of passive aggressive resentment between men and women based off the fact that we are viewed as useless around beautiful “strange
”. If you think your lady is above this, just bring her somewhere around some knockouts and watch her go Super Saiyan with her hate. I don’t think it’s unwarranted as many of us will play gentlemen; let’s just put it out there right now. If I grabbed 4 random married guys and took them to a mansion of secrecy housing prostitutes that favored Adriana Lima, I guarantee you that all 4 would get laid.
Men… it’s not entirely our fault is it? Women burn us early and we burn them later on… with better looking women. As they say it’s the game, but maybe, just maybe I am wrong about this and most guys obey the law of the land and turn down prime rib when it’s spread out in front of them…
I don’t think so though but what do you think; Am I nuts, or am I on to something here?
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Really? This is a philisophy I can’t get with. Regardless if you have a 7 or a 10, people need to have self control and be held accountable for their actions. if a man or woman cheats it’s cause they wanted to. Kinda confused why it’s the cheatee’s fault for getting duped. Blah.
Where did he say it was the cheatees fault?
I am feeling playboy right here! People gotta understand that just cause you there that work doesn’t have to be put in! You can’t just put the game in cruise control because another player can be signed at anytime
You are most definitely onto something here. While I do think that if you were done wrong in the past (and it’s up to you to get over it), that past is hard to let go of. Plus, I think it’s all the mentality of “if I’m going to go out, I’m going out in a blaze” (Bishop in “Juice”). So if you’re going to cheat, then hey, I can understand why you would cheat 30% higher with a 10 if I’m a 7. I enjoy this post.
Dunno. this post may prove that men are hoorible at anticipation.
Possibly you’ve been swayed by too much media hype. ‘Upgrading’ is another way of indulging selfish desires, another way of staying blind to consequences. It feels right because non-monogamy is part of an evolutionary past, no doubt, but to deny long term consequences is kiiiiiinda suicidal. Suicidal for your long term happiness and suicidal for your community.
Take a look ahead of you. Think about those 60 something men who couldn’t keep themselves from taking advantage of ‘upgrades’. How do they compare to the men who found a great women, worked out an adventurous life with her, raised a couple of great kids and are living a less self-indulged life. Compare the two and anticipate the consequences of selfish indulgences.
It can be a real sketchy game when are constantly trying to upgrade a chick. We can all get better but is that better chick worth it is the question
Ha Ha! This was entertaining, but nah, it’s not the womens fault. Not at all. This is just another excuse for men to do it. Women don’t always look like Jolie, Lima or any other pretty girl for men to cheat. They just cheat with mud ducks in the shadows. Their friends hear about it, but they don’t always bring up the fact that she wasn’t cute. The act alone is still worth bragging about. I do agree that “some” women can’t have their guy around attractive women, whether it’s a childhood friend or new boss. But the woman’s looks doesn’t mean that their character is flawed (the girl could be married or in a happy relationship) but the girlfriend doesn’t care. She initially goes on a rampage to destroy/end any type of relationship her guy has with the woman or at least her credibility of pretty, if nothing else. That too is sad. But cheating or being cheated on is far worse damage. Anyways, interesting post. Sometimes I think you believe, in your mind, you are some day going to prove that “men cheat AND it is womens fault.” lol. Nope, not at all. Men have throughout history favored(and acted on) having multiple women to sleep with, no matter their status. Men don’t want to hold “themselves” accountable for cheating. I actually don’t believe that most men believe in monogamy, but view it as something forced on them (like it’s a woman’s rule or something else foreign to their well being). They don’t really embrace being with one woman forever long before they ever consider being in a relationship. Since they tell themselves they should have multiple, they do. But idk, that’s just my take on it.
Please,…..first of all…..women start and end EVERY relationship. We men, can’t get anywhere…unless YOU women, allow us to. Second….in almost EVERY relationship (sans Abuse)..it’s usually BOTH parties fault, when things go wrong. Don’t start lying about men need to be responsible and be foolish to think you as a woman, don’t have to be. That says alot about that lack of character…
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