One of the sayings I love is the one which says, “Money and success don’t change you; it shows the world more of who you already are”. Can the same thing come from seeing someone else have success? People love to cheer for the underdog but what about when the underdog becomes the Top Dog? Is there still love for the person when they have finally reached success? We as a society seem to love to build people up and then on the other hand tear them down when they get high. This guest post this week is from Mark Anthony Harris( @darcwonn) of ChocolateCoverLies.com one that attacks this idea when it comes to one Lebron James.
Lebron James is presently one of the most disliked figures in basketball and sports altogether.
People can say what they want about it, but they know it is true. From blog posts, to Facebook commentary, to even Photoshop induced pictorials, Lebron James has been ridiculed. Some of it is fair, yet so much of it is unwarranted. For a man that was ordained “King James” without even winning a NBA championship, people became irritated. With the incessant hype beasts either praising him or throwing rocks at his “throne”, he stayed in public eye. Yet, he finally won his coveted championship by being the leader on the Miami Heat. In turn, one would think that some of the hate would subside now that he “lived up to the hype”.
Newsflash: people still hate the man. Some say success ends all criticisms. I haven’t found that to be true in this case, though.
Then it dawned on me: success can bring the worst out of people. Whether the success is deserved or not should be considered. Still, that aspect can sadly become irrelevant. When you have people so willing to harp on any/every aspect to tear down another’s character to the point of nigh-defamation, one should begin to be at least slightly concerned. It leaves me awestruck to witness people tear others down because that person is successful. In truth, I am starting to see that some people don’t want others to win.
But why is that?
Well, one reason is the sake of competition. For so many people, it is all about survival of the fittest. When they are applauding a successful person’s fall from grace, it is the elation towards replacing them (maybe). Now, the likelihood (on average) of replacing that person may not even be that great. Still, self-serving individuals look forward to someone else’s failure to add to their rate of success.
Another reason is just pure jealousy/envy. Many people look at themselves as disasters. Also, people feel that they should be “doing better” while someone else is “getting all of the fame and fortune”. These feelings turn into pure resentment. That resentment can evolve into jealousy and envy. Thus, some hate the successful because they want to make themselves feel better about their failures.
Then there is one unique group that some don’t always consider: those that are left behind. We all know the type: they were once down with someone who ended up being successful. Once that success is reached, the successful leave their friends/families/former business partners behind. This is more than just simple resentment and jealousy. This is something way more personal. This is the feeling of abandonment.
Big K.R.I.T. said it best on “Don’t Let Me Down”: But I can’t fault them for their feelings ‘cause I know the score/its hard to celebrate for others when you dying poor.
While there are reasons for people to hate those that are successful, in the end someone still loses. It could be the successful, the failure, or both. At some point, people need to realize that success and failure is a measure of expectations. Other times, they need to start focusing on their own and ignore others. Still, one should never hate another because of the latter’s success, deserving or not. In the end, too much focus is given on disliking others when it should be spent on improving their plight.
‘Nuff said and ‘Nuff respect!!
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- The Dumbest Reasons to Hate on LeBron James and the Miami Heat (complex.com)
- The Gas Face: Why You Hate Lebron James Like He Is an Ex-Girlfriend (ashy2classy.net)
- Why It’s Wrong To Root Against Lebron James (verysmartbrothas.com)
- LeBron James, The Media, and The Perception Of Black Males In America (singleblackmale.org)
- Under The Hood: A New Take On Activism In Sports (racialicious.com)