This week’s guest post is a response to the comments section and discussion that was had on my controversial post a few weeks ago “Men and the Madonna Ho Complex”. The guest post is someone who has posted here a few other times and isn’t a stranger to FATC and she is Jamala Mete (@SimplyMilele) who just dropped a book for you to check out Confessions…of a Faithful Woman. Jamala wants to talk about how the idea of sex of being a more of spiritual thing and what it means to truly enjoy it. She also presents the misnotion of societal’s judgment of women and how many men they have slept with because no one can judge a persons spiritual connection to someone.
I was reading the comments of my brothers recent post on the Madonna Whore Complex and I was absolutely flabbergasted.
Now I know we have all been seasoned to believe that women should be enslaved and only be able to exist under the heals of men. And black women… who are inferior by gender AND race… are the scourge of the earth. Black men since they come from black women (who are by nature/choice overly sexual) are doomed to be drug dealing, wanna be entertainers whose only value is his ability to keep his dick hard and make money for white people. And we must not forget that religion says women are tainted and evil creatures who must be beaten raped and abused in order to learn her place as the property of man. If a woman takes the same rights/liberties as a man does with her own body she is a whore, slut, ho, jumpoff, sidechick, lower human being because of course as blacks are inferior to whites and incapable of governing themselves so are women inferior to men. But must importantly a woman value is in her virginity not in the character or spirit. Every time she has sex she is closer to evil, each encounter takes away from the beauty of her spirit. Every touch from a man taints her and she becomes less of a human being. So women should be sexually oppressed for their own good and only men should know freedom…unless they are black.
All that aside lets stop and think…..
If you truly accept all those things above then you can stop reading now because you will not be able to understand the rest of this post.
BUT if any or all the above sounds crazy than you may be able to see the flawed think on sex and sexuality.
Let’s start with the basics. Sex is spiritual…. I don’t care how you try to limit it, it is a Divine act. Now many of us don’t understand/know how to connect, heal, enlighten, etc through sex but that does not take away from the act itself. Human are divine beings… we are aspects of The Creator manifested physically. Soooooooo Divine beings doing divine acts creates a spiritual experience. Here is the problem… Many of us are disconnected from our Divine purpose so we can’t not fathom the true beauty and purpose of sex and intimacy.
All that aside lets continue to think…
The only sexual “difference” between men and women is that ones’ genitals or on the outside and ones’ are on the inside. That is it. A woman is not defiled by sleeping with a man nor is a man defiled for sleeping with a woman. PERIOD! Men and women were created equally. Now we have different attributes but one does not make the other inferior or lesser nor does it make the other dominate or a better human. Women have the human right to have same rights to their bodies without being subjugated in any manner by society or any member of society.
All that aside…
So why then have we generally accepted as a culture that women are inferior to men and there worth is based on sex? Women can not think, act, speak or exist freely as a human being (sex is natural and healthy) because we have accepted oppressive thinking on sex.
Rather than considering that sex needs to be elevated to a higher healthier level for ALL human we single out women and make them the issue.
Lets talk about the REAL issue with sex… We have lost (detached) our connection with the Universal forces and principles and have what I like to call “junk-food sex”. We have sex that has nothing to do with enlightening, healing, spirituality or The Creator. We connect physically but not emotionally or spiritually.
If a person has ever had “Divine sex” there would be NO WAY that person could judge based on numbers.
Instead let us all begin to raise sex to the divine tool that it is and work to use it for healing, enlightenment, divine understanding and enjoyment. As we do that we will feel no need to judge or oppress the thoughts of others based on the physical.
My question to you is…
Is YOUR sex spiritual?
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