This week’s guest post is a response to the comments section and discussion that was had on my controversial post a few weeks ago “Men and the Madonna Ho Complex”. The guest post is someone who has posted here a few other times and isn’t a stranger to FATC and she is Jamala Mete (@SimplyMilele) who just dropped a book for you to check out Confessions…of a Faithful Woman. Jamala wants to talk about how the idea of sex of being a more of spiritual thing and what it means to truly enjoy it. She also presents the misnotion of societal’s judgment of women and how many men they have slept with because no one can judge a persons spiritual connection to someone.
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I was reading the comments of my brothers recent post on the Madonna Whore Complex and I was absolutely flabbergasted.
Now I know we have all been seasoned to believe that women should be enslaved and only be able to exist under the heals of men. And black women… who are inferior by gender AND race… are the scourge of the earth. Black men since they come from black women (who are by nature/choice overly sexual) are doomed to be drug dealing, wanna be entertainers whose only value is his ability to keep his dick hard and make money for white people. And we must not forget that religion says women are tainted and evil creatures who must be beaten raped and abused in order to learn her place as the property of man. If a woman takes the same rig
hts/liberties as a man does with her own body she is a whore, slut, ho, jumpoff, sidechick, lower human being because of course as blacks are inferior to whites and incapable of governing themselves so are women inferior to men. But must importantly a woman value is in her virginity not in the character or spirit. Every time she has sex she is closer to evil, each encounter takes away from the beauty of her spirit. Every touch from a man taints her and she becomes less of a human being. So women should be sexually oppressed for their own good and only men should know freedom…unless they are black.
All that aside lets stop and think…..
If you truly accept all those things above then you can stop reading now because you will not be able to understand the rest of this post.
BUT if any or all the above sounds crazy than you may be able to see the flawed think on sex and sexuality.
Let’s start with the basics. Sex is spiritual…. I don’t care how you try to limit it, it is a Divine act. Now many of us don’t understand/know how to connect, heal, enlighten, etc through sex but that does not take away from the act itself. Human are divine beings… we are aspects of The Creator manifested physically. Soooooooo Divine beings doing divine acts creates a spiritual experience. Here is the problem… Many of us are disconnected from our Divine purpose so we can’t not fathom the true beauty and purpose of sex and intimacy.
All that aside lets continue to think…
The only sexual “difference” between men and women is that ones’ genitals or on the outside and ones’ are on the inside. That is it. A woman is not defiled by sleeping with a man nor is a man defiled for sleeping with a woman. PERIOD! Men and women were created equally. Now we have different attributes but one does not make the other inferior or lesser nor does it make the other dominate or a better human. Women have the human right to have same rights to their bodies without being subjugated in any manner by society or any member of society.
All that aside…
So why then have we gen
erally accepted as a culture that women are inferior to men and there worth is based on sex? Women can not think, act, speak or exist freely as a human being (sex is natural and healthy) because we have accepted oppressive thinking on sex.
Still thinking?
Rather than considering that sex needs to be elevated to a higher healthier level for ALL human we single out women and make them the issue.
Lets talk about the REAL issue with sex… We have lost (detached) our connection with the Universal forces and principles and have what I like to call “junk-food sex”. We have sex that has nothing to do with enlightening, healing, spirituality or The Creator. We connect physically but not emotionally or spiritually.
If a person has ever had “Divine sex” there would be NO WAY that person could judge based on numbers.
Instead let us all begin to raise sex to the divine tool that it is and work to use it for healing, enlightenment, divine understanding and enjoyment. As we do that we will feel no need to judge or oppress the thoughts of others based on the physical.
My question to you is…
Is YOUR sex spiritual?
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Yes..it must be spiritual or it has no value.
This all good in theory but men and women have different wants and needs. The spirituallity thing sounds good on paper but in the real world most people don’t give a damn about all that. Some women want us men to not want sex much and always look into it like it has to be this cosmic situation all the time. Sometimes I just need some coochie and she may just need some dick
LOL! You really do miss the point sometimes, don’t you?
I do get it! I just keep it real on what happens in real life not what we want or expect it to be! The game is the game playa
A lot of things exist. But should they? Just because it exists doesn’t make it acceptable.
Thank you for this contribution, Sista!
Unfortunately, I was not flabbergasted by the comments on the “Madonna…” post. As a man, I hear that kind of paternalistic, chauvinist, self-hating bullshit all of the time. Slavery and oppression have really done a number on our people; many women feel this way too. It is a good to hear a fresh, clear and assertive perspective on an issue that is at the core of our human experience.
Sometimes people do just want to bust a nut. But we must put it into perspective:
Do you care about your partner? Or do you feel they’re beneath you)?
Do you intend to do “good” with your actions?
Are you actions selfish?
Do you have the greater “good” in mind?
It’s really not difficult to think and act this way, once you start. This is at the core of “spiritual sex…” That’s the stuff that will make the world better.
Most men can’t get past the thing between their legs to even understand 80% of what you are talking about in this post but good job anyway
Are you for certain about that? And what percentage of women would get the message? LOL!
Speak for the men You know!! Don’t lump those lane men in the box with all,men
Good piece! I do want to add that many women don’t take the time out to know themselves sexually to even get to this point you are talking about. They run around thinking they got some snap back when they can’t think outside of their box(pun kinda intended). They think just cause they have dude around that she doesn’t have to sexually/spiritually intertwine with him Men sometimes get caught in the scheme of wanting that nut so much that they don’t get to that level
I know I am late but thanks for all the responses. Typos are evil!!! Excuse my mistakes in this post.
I will say that things are not as they should be rather could be. We are battling many mental, physical and spiritual dis-eases that cause the natural flow of things to be impaired. However the true divine nature of things can never be corrupted and it is from that place I speak.
In my book http://www.confessionsofa.webs.com I challenge some of these notions while mentally, physically and spiritually stimulating the reader (check it out)
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