This week’s guest post is from Greg the Dragon (@hobdragon) of the men’s online magazine Hall of the Black Dragon. He has contributed post here for a long time and doesn’t need much of an introduction so let’s dive right into his post….
I am lucky to know many beautiful women in my life and I will say that when you are blessed with looks you are forced to command the type of treatment the world will give you because by default it will be negative.
Hate is the way of society, it just is; if you have money you are called greedy by those who don’t and if you are famous you are labeled abnormal or a weirdo through rumor and gossip. This crabs in a bucket mentality of people forces them to tear someone down who is better in any degree in order to normalize them.
For this – a beautiful woman is automatically viewed a s a bitch, a whore, a man-stealer, stuck-up, dumb, lazy… I can keep going. I have sat in conversations where someone was unnecessarily labeled like this by someone who was obviously jealous of them and it was just sad.
When I originally wrote The Curse of Being a Beautiful Woman I did not expect the wonderful response that it has been receiving by women who have lived through this hell or are actively living through it right now. When I look at the responses it saddens me to see than many women have not figured out that many of this offense can be curbed by becoming what our own Nadia labels a Spartanite.
Beautiful Women are Hated; Beautiful Queens are Worshiped
One of the beautiful women I know is a family member of mine; she is such a sweetheart that nobody can easily talk bad about her but she is also one of the strongest women I know.
When men come at her with ridiculous, unwanted advances she doesn’t shoot them down harshly and I still cannot understand how it works – but it does. A frequent exchange would be along the lines of:
Herb: “damn baby you are so fine, how about you let me buy those groceries for you?”
Beauty: “oh you are too much but I’ve got it; you gotta be an independent woman these day y’know”
And though this may lead to some worthless conversation for her as she checks out her groceries and leaves; the guy is both thankful that his brush-off was done nicely but he feels rewarded for having been given some time by a beautiful woman.
If you think that this is either bull or won’t work for you – consider that this lady is now in her 50’s; has always operated this way; and has never had an incident go beyond her control. She commands her audience ladies and as a beauty it is what you have to do. Brush us off lightly, you are not allowed to be a “bitch”.
You commented here on the Hall on a thread about Beauty so in your own eyes you know and feel that you are part of this category; so why pretend otherwise? A confident woman is both intimidating and admirable at the same time and the world expects a beauty to embrace her gift so why deny it?
If you think that owning up to your looks will make you come off as a stuck up narcissist you are very wrong. Not owning up to it will make you look like a cocky beauty trying poorly to play coy and it will yield you even more negative resentment.
Part of the reason I adore Angelina Jolie on my site is for that very reason. She has many haters but the way she carries herself, head up high, defiant glance at the world and a smile on her face – forces you to respect her beauty despite all the rocks you throw at her throne.
It is the epitome of the logos at the bottom of the site, one being the “dapper don” which is the extraordinary gentleman and the other being the “boss bitch” which is a woman that cannot be shaken in her confidence, beauty and self-image.
Beautiful women become easy prey if they show weakness to the world so why not smile, be nice but firm and face the world as the idol that they expect you to be? Even trying it will yield you much better results than the victim role trust me because everyone has an opinion about beauty, but few will go at an Angelina Jolie Spartanite to her face. You can bet on that.
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