This week’s guest post is from ME! Yes I am guest posting on my site! This post was actually a guest post I did for the lovely ladies over at Curly Deviants. I felt with all the discussion about black women’s hair and Gabrielle Douglas’ hair in the Olympics. that I would share this post on my view of beauty in terms of hair.
I bet someone read the title of this post and thought about Lil Wayne’s lyrics that alluded to a women’s sexual region. If you did, get your mind out of the gutter dammit! When I was a young playa (well…probably until a few years ago) I was enthralled with women that had long hair. My love affair with a woman’s long hair was a fairly peculiar thing. I’m not gonna front – I was so much into long hair at one point that washing a women’s hair was a turn on for me…It still is actually.
Now, I’ll admit – my parameters were very weird. Even though I loved long hair I really disliked weave. So, as I wallowed through the abyss of dating, I looked at a woman’s hair as a gauge of my true interest in her. Yeah, it sounds vain as hell. But it was what it was at that point in time. I was so comical with my vanity – I’d look at a woman (especially if I was dating her) as if they were the anti-Christ if they even talked about cutting their hair.
What’s interesting to note is that most men have all of these precursors when it comes to seriously dating a woman. From butts to breasts women HAVE to have these things for a man to even be attracted to her. And hey, there’s nothing wrong with having certain things you are attracted to. But, we can become slaves to a physical dynamic. Mine just happened to be hair. Who knows, maybe it was that I was bowing to the socially accepted ideal… that a woman has to have some form of Eurocentric beauty. Admit it, somewhere down the line you’ve fallen prey to that too…
“Trust me, if a woman ain’t happy with herself, she’s going to bring nothing but pain to every f’ing body around her.”- Ice T
Women are put under enormous pressure to make sure their hair looks great at all time… AND makes them feel good about herself. Show you a woman who loves her hair and I will show you a woman who has self-love for herself. But, it becomes an issue when society tries to overtly and inertly put pressure on women to acquiesce to a certain way of doing their hair. For instance, look at the natural hair movement that has come along in the black community. So many women are taking their hair back into their control (per say) and getting off the “creamy crack” (perms). It seemed to have empowered a lot of women to be comfortable with their hair the way it is. And for that I applaud those sisters!
Call it maturing and learning more about life, but I had to realize that the hair is not a predictor to what type of woman she is… I had to start embracing a woman for more than that warped ideal of a woman’s hair. I aint gonna front though… I still love long hair. But I CAN say that I really don’t care one way or another…now.
I would say that hair is a woman’s glory and that you share that glory with your family. And they get to see you braiding it and they get to see you washing it.- Maya Angelou
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