Greetings and salutations Dig,
I’m going to get straight to the point. I have a wonderful male friend who I’ve always had feelings for and considered to be “more than just a friend”. I recently opened up to him about my feelings for him and, to my dismay,he divulged that the feelings weren’t mutual. Rejection sucks but the fact that I consider him a close friend makes said rejection that much worse. I don’t want to end the friendship because he truly is a wonderful person but knowing that I’m stuck in the dreaded “friend zone” is painful and embarrassing. I’ve begun speaking with him less since then. I don’t want to make the situation more awkward than it already is. However, he claims that our friendship will only be awkward if I make it that way. I’d rather not lose a good friend over a missed love connection but after being rejected how can I just sit around acting like being “just friends” is fine for me? What’s the next step after rejection from a friend?
Thanks for writing the letter to me. I am always humbled by submissions to Open Friday. Well let’s get right into it!! This is a situation that you may have to charge to the game and stay sound in your friendship. They say that the person you are to be with is supposed to be with is supposed to be your best friend but does it always work out like that? NO. With all of that being said, If you can’t be “just friends” with him I would say be honest with yourself and keep the relationship on a strictly hi and bye basis. But, if he is truly your friend and you value that relationship then you won’t mess up that thing.
Thinking about this even more maybe he put you into the friend zone because of his own personal preferences that have NOTHING to do with you. It also could be the case that he isn’t emotionally or mentally available for you and he respects you too much to not be on some BS with you. I am not gonna sit here and front to you. There are women at one point in my life that I didn’t pursue in my life because I know I was going to be not be in the right state of mind. Understand that there can be a multitude of reasons for saying that he just wanted to be friends. Sometimes we don’t get things when we want them. Just cause he is saying no now just mean its no forever. I would say keep doing your thing and value the friendship for what it is right now. Take what he said as what he means and like I said before if the friendship means that much to you than you will be cool “with being just a friend”
What do you think about Petite’s situation with being “just a friend”? Chime in?
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