I have a major problem right now. My lady and I have been together for a few years and I feel everything is going great in our relationship. I know this is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. She is everything a man like me would want.
A few months we were talking about the possibility of marriage. She turns to me and says that I need to make more money before she would consider marrying me. Now I am not a baller by any means but I have a nice job and am working on some other things and building up my career as a photographer. It caught me off guard at first because I thought that we were all to the good in our relationship. Then the other day I brought up the idea of us getting married in the future and she said the same thing to me. She then suggested that I should reapply for medical school and follow that dream because it would be better for us. She has been getting me applications and sending me emails about different schools in our state. She says she is doing what is best for us and our future.
So, now I am reapplying to medical schools and looking into the medical field again. I really love my lady and I want to be the caretaker and provider she needs in her life. Am I going overboard with me pursuing medicine again? I would appreciate your thoughts on this cause I like your perspective on things.
Johnny Be Good
Johnny Be Good,
First thing I have to say to you that everything doesn’t look to be all good. I wish I knew more information about your situation because I can’t comment as much with your situation because I don’t know her history or her context of saying this. For instance are you not really ascending and going hard after what you want in your life. The Jazz thing and the “nice” job you have may not have in passion in it. Maybe she sees this and wants more for you and is suggesting you go another route to make things happen. Why didn’t you go to medical school before? These are some questions that and ideas that I do have…
BUT ON THE OTHER HAND…
Two things stick out to me
The first thing is that I have to blame you because you have to know what kind of chick you are dealing with. She just aint been talking about paper overnight. You have been with her for a few years this can’t be too much of a surprise to you if you really say you love her as much as you do.
The second thing is ff this situation is like you are describing from this letter….Your chick is full of s***. How she going to tell you that you basically need to be a doctor to be with her? She knew what kind of dude you were from the jump. I always say if a person ants what they want it’s not a problem with it but don’t put your wants onto someone who can’t realistically reach them. We all have this ideal of a mate but the creator wasn’t gracious enough to make someone who is everything we want them to be. You have to ask yourself whose future is she more concerned about the unit of you two or her future?
At the end of the day you have to really sit down and think about if you really want to pursue this medical thing because of her because it is your passion. If you really do feel you need to be in medical school. Go for it and know that your woman is just trying to push you in a positive direction. If you really don’t understand that your chick maybe wanting to mold you into who SHE wants to have as mate instead of loving you for who you are.
What are your thoughts FATC? Chime in!!
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