We live in a society inundated with the idea of self-absorption and self-victimization. Some people constantly walk around in a state of perpetual “woe is me” being. People are always upset or mad at someone else for something in their lives. People blame their ex for a relationship failing, blame others for the reason they are always in some drama like Knots Landing, or blame society for them not succeeding or going as far as they feel they should have. The truth is the person you should be MAD at is the person you like that every morning in the mirror…YOU!
That ME thing is something that w have twisted in our mind. We want everything to be about us and for us until it comes down to taking the onus or blame in our own lives. We want people to do everything we want them to do with no adherence to what WE should be doing. I am a firm believer that sometimes we deserve the situation we are in because like I have said before WE ARE OUR WORST ENEMY.
Be Mad AT You… For Bad Relationships
For instance, in relationships many times our relationships are sh*** not just because of the other person but also because we are deficient ourselves at something. We have become a society of people who don’t want to struggle or build with someone in a relationship. We want everything to feel right all the time and to run like Love Jones. Then if we do try to build with someone we pick the worst and wackest people to decide to want to deal with. We pass by great situations “cause it didn’t always feel” right for the situation that “feels right” but is wholeheartedly wrong for us (see The Marcus Graham Chronicles). We have cut off so many of the great people in our lives for trivial reasons that its poetic justice that we are in relationship purgatory. After all of these burned bridges we want to say that it is all someone else’s fault we are single or unhappy. People never want to sit back and take self-inventory we just keep moving from relationship to relationship playing the blame game with the wrong person NO, the person at fault is right there in the mirror.
When it comes to our problems we never want to look at the person that we see the most everyday…OURSELVES. We aren’t happy in our career so we want to blame or be mad at the system when it’s not all the systems fault you don’t have the career or money you want. To make anything happen or prosper you have to live, breathe, and eat it and even in doing that you may not get where you want. Are you really living and breathing and going hard on what you want out of life. Do you wake up in the morning and feel sick when you aren’t doing the things you NEED and Should be doing? Are you just haphazardly trying something instead of doing it? Are you putting yourself in position to make things happen for you? If you aren’t then who are you MAD at? Are you just what I have talked about before trying and not doing? That’s right the person you see every day in the rearview mirror.
Be Mad at You…For Always Being in Drama
How patient are you in situations? What negative energy are you putting out there? What negative and ill-willed choices are YOU making? I have always believed that some of the negative things that we encounter are repercussions of the negative energy and decisions we have made in our lives. Here is a story on patience and our lives I want you to take in:
A man was coming back from war and couldn’t wait to see his wife that he hadn’t seen in years. He walked up the steps and saw in the window his wife embracing another man. He was enraged that his wife was with other man and went to go get a gun to kill them. He couldn’t believe that his wife could do this to him after all he had done for her. He went to his father’s to get a gun and his father told him that in drastic or big decision you should wait 72 hrs. and if you felt the same way to go ahead and do what you have to do. The man stayed at his father’s for 3 days and simmered about the fact that his wife was with another man why he was off fighting a war. On Day 3 he was still enraged so he grabbed his father’s gun and rushed to his home. He saw his wife folding up clothes that he knew had to be for a grown man…probably the new guy she was sleeping with. He pulled his gun and started to open the door and as he opened the door. He heard a voice from behind him “Dad!! Is that you??!!” The man turned around to see the man he saw in the window running towards him and hugging him. If he had not been patient the man would have entered his home and killed both his wife and son.
I am going to let that story simmer on the pot for you like Greens on Tuesday before Thanksgiving…
How much drama are you putting in your life at your own behest by making impulsive decisions and not being patient to see what is happening first? Are you bringing that negative energy to yourself by wanting things to happen so fast for you? Things in this world don’t happen in a vacuum and come over time. I have minimized my impulsive thought and rash decisions by looking at successful things: relationships, careers, business, spirituality, etc and the one common reason is that none of them happen right away and that they are all a process. The blaming of other people and things has to be stopped. There are things to be happy about in life but the first way to that happens is taking the blame for your problems and effectively attacking and mediating ourselves. Don’t forget just because we aren’t where we want to be doesn’t mean anything but maybe it wasn’t OUR TIME. By it is time for us to start looking at the man/woman in the mirror.
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