The past two weeks I received two emails that were very interesting. I want to highlight both of these letters and dive into a theme that both have in concerns of From Ashy to Classy…MISOGYNY. I am actually not going to respond to these letters directly I want to see what you all think about the critiques and give me your opinion. I originally had a post written in response to this articles but I stopped my inital responses because I wanted to sit back and see what more of the readers thought.
Please do not take offense by my remarks. It is merely an observation. I am a white 53 year old Jewish woman. I write articles on love and its relationship to mental health and brain chemistry. I came across your webpage. I need to express to you first from a physiological place your explanation of what happens to a man post orgasm has no scientific basis. Conversely my reason for writing is it appears from your page that you are a bright, young black male with a talent for journalism and writing. The type of genre you will attract will hopefully be bright vibrant young and old ( like myself) readers with an intelligence for reading fun and interpreting it as such. Yet there will be some women, young and not quite as savvy as some and will interpret your blog on post male orgasm as an avenue to modulate how a man feels for them and how to base their actions. Your writings are somewhat male chauvinistic, misogynist, and degrading to women. Particularly black women that generationally have a hard time securing solid relationships with black men that are intelligent and forthcoming about what they want out of life without basing their choices for mates only on the act of sex. Your account of having a sexual relationship from a position that the women does not see the partners face is degrading to women (not from the position alone, but from the implications that you accuse). And the only thing that a women, black and young or old, white and Jewish young or old, or any woman for that matter should do with a sandwich after engaging in any intimate behavior with a man like that (hence I do misuse the word imitate as there is lake there of in your description) is to throw it at him and move herself rather quickly to a higher standard of excellence.
Thanks for reading ….good luck with your blog…
Dear From Ashy to Classy,
I found your site from Black Enterprise’s Top 20 Black Bloggers of 2012 post and really liked your interview and perspective. I decided to come check out some of your posts. I am a graduate student studying Woman’s studies and figured you seemed like you would be a champion for women’s causes. After going through many of your posts I found that I was sadly disappointed in the perspectives. I found that many of your writings were misogynistic as hell under the veil of being a black conscious brother. You write things that are harmful to women and don’t further any conversation. You make women feel like you are the end all be all of knowledge. You write posts that big up black women but snarkly on the undertone you are coming at them and trying to make them “correct” the things wrong with them. Well why don’t you address what is wrong with black men. You talk a lot about accountability but there is always that undertone that seems to be directed particularly at women. Even your podcast reps of male entitlement and is nothing but male chauvinism and misunderstanding of women by you and your co-hosts. You speak as an authority on subjects when you are nothing but just a guy with average thoughts that can write. From what I have read on this site I have seen this site as the haven for misogyny especially misogynists who want to where sheep clothing. Just another black writer who thinks they know black culture and black women. If you even have a girlfriend I feel sorry for her having to deal with a man like you is the worst kind of misogynist the undercover kind.
So there are the two letters? What do you think about the letters and if you don’t want to respond here you can hit me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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