Ok the situation: there’s a guy I’ve known for about three years. It started off as us dating but eventually went to a sexual relationship. I caught feelings and the arguments started because he lost interest but gained interest in our sexual conquest. So long story short, he had got in two relationships and now have two kids, one and a newbie. I told him about a month ago I want to end what we have. My thing is he is also a friend because he helped me when I didn’t have a car, provided groceries etc. How do i deal with this? Should i cut him off cause its obvious all he wants is sex or continue talking to him because he is a friend?
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Let’s get to your letter though. You stayed around why he had two other seeds..DAMN!! Is your name Cassie? LOL!! Just kidding….This is a sticky situation because I understand your loyalty to the brother. The question you have to ask yourself is can you just be friends with him without him catching you slippin and gets a chance to drop his dip stick in your engine. I don’t know how much he was there for you but if he was just there financially you are putting a price on your cooch in my eyes. And that’s cool if you are cool with that aspect in life but if you feel you are worth more than that him financially being there isn’t a reason to keep him lingering around. But the thing was you aren’t cool with being a side piece jump off obviously from the tone of your letter.
The question you need yourself is: Do you still want to be with him? What I mean by that is we can talk the game and even tell the person we are done dealing with them but he never gonna believe you are done with him until that interaction decreases. He has banged you out on the side for two years you really think he believes he is done hitting it just because you told him so?
Sometimes the best thing at the end of the day is to practice a military practiced called “scorched earth policy”. Basically you leave the situation behind destroying anything the enemy can use, never look back it and move forward to the next goal. This can be used in your situation as well. There is nothing wrong with severing that soul tie and moving forward because how you going to move forward with that lingering “friendship” in the background.
We teach people how we want to be treated by what we allow them to do to us. You can have a special place for him in your heart but he clearly doesn’t want to be with you the way you want to be with him. You can be cordial and cool but no need to be friends with him. Thank him for everything he has done but keep it moving. But ask yourself are you ready to really move on?
What do you think? Should she at least stay friends with this guy? Speak On It!!
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