Culture has a whole really has a problem contextualizing the idea of what rape is. We as a society in many ways have swept some facets of rape under the table because the nature of a rape incident. Most people think the scenario of rape is a guy in a dark alley that attacks a woman walking to her car. When the idea of rape is has so many forms and fashions to it and most of the time doesn’t involve the “guy in the dark alley”. I mean even A Tribe Called Quest told us about the classic example of even a date rape. A perfect example of this is the Steubenville, OH rape case that just recently wrapped up with two teenage boys being found guilty of sexual assault.
This incident in Ohio is the classic example of how this notion of rape constantly needs to be reevaluated. The Steubenville case displays how we have embraced a culture of thinking that taking pictures and violating a woman is alright and fun and games. There is this idea that just because someone is drunk it admonishes things done to them (see all those situations with dudes teabag men passed out). These boys were definitely doing dumb high school antics but for all the boys involved to think it was a joke is the inherent problem. Not only is the girl been sexually assaulted but being put on tape and photographed is the coupe de gras The funny thing is that this isn’t just young high school boys who engage in this wack behavior. You have grown ass men out here who do and think these types of actions are funny and cool. The boys involved in this case have all the fault in the world but let’s not forget that these boys are that boys and they are part of system and society that looks the other way in situations such as this.
I have stated many times in the past that the woman is the most valuable thing in this world to man. This why you have men fight wars, protect, and get mad when another man takes umbrage with a man having his woman. The ill part about this all is that men have no problem defiling a woman as long as it’s not there woman and many times develop a “Madonna Whore Complex”. The idea that some women are not worthy of having their noncie defiled is the over handed issue. Who’s right is it to choose what woman deserves to have done to them? Regardless of how much you believe that because of their reckless lifestyle or behavior does a woman deserve to be sexually assaulted.
One thing I have learned over the years is that many women around me have been raped if not sexually assaulted. I think much of the lack of awareness is the idea most of men have no knowledge of the dynamics of rape and many times has not hit home for them. As a naïve young man I thought just like many people who rape was something that happened in a dark parking lot or was just something you see as a CBS movie of the week (Remember those?). Just like many things in this world most people do not understand or give a damn about something until it hits directly in their backyard or has effect someone they know/love.
The actions of all those involved in this situation are somehow at fault from the boys who instituted the assault, the boys shooting the video, and even the irresponsibility of the teen girl’s underage drunken situation. BUT as many people have tried to say that the girl has fault for drinking underage is one of the most asinine reasons out there. For instance if I leave my back door open it doesn’t mean you have a right to come and take whatever you want right? It was irresponsible for me to leave my back door wide open it doesn’t mean you have the right to come and take my things.
At the same time the Steubenville incident isn’t anything new it happen back when I was in high school and college so, let’s not get all outraged and totally be appalled by what happen. The difference is that in this case you couldn’t turn a blind eye to this incident but it is right in front of your face every day with girls and women around you daily. Now you want these boys to have the book thrown at them for this incident but you really didn’t care too much about rape until you read/saw this case on CNN.
As a man who has dated a few women who have been dated who had been raped it really does hit a sore spot for me. The psychological and physical bearings of this are something that not only affects them but the people and world around you. Especially in the African-American community this is something we have to take hold to and understand its detriment. Then men wonder why some women are crazy as cat s**t in relationships. As the illustrious Doughboy said in Boyz in the Hood that applies across the board in life: “Either they don’t know. Don’t show or don’t care about what is going on…”
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