Those Selfish and Entitled Women That Men Love

You would think that men would be smart enough to fight back against women demanding unrealistic and uncharacteristic things in a relationship, but the vicious cycle of strong women making punk-ass beta men play the part of loving husband while lusting for strong alpha men will continue. Do you know why? Because horny men with no self-esteem will allow it to happen, that is why.

Yesterday I was listening to one of my favorite radio shows and the deejay was taking calls from people who wanted to vent. One of the callers was from a woman who started off by bragging that she has a Sugar Daddy. “Great!” I thought, “this should be good”. The woman goes on to talk about how her living situation as well as her child’s depended on this Sugar Daddy and how he put her up in her apartment and constantly showered her with gifts.women having fun

So what was this woman ranting about? She thought that he would be leaving his wife for her; not because this man had told her that he would, but because she was falling for him and wanted him all to herself. If I was the deejay I would have cussed her out and hung up the phone but the host did me one better – she called the woman out on her bullshit. Simply put the deejay said to her caller “you aren’t falling for him, you’ve fallen for his money”. The woman, without hesitating agreed, laughed, and then started in again on the money this man was giving her and the gifts he always had for her.

Now if you’re reading this you are probably saying to yourself “well that woman is a shallow idiot who is going to have a rude awakening” but is she so much different from many of the women we date and run into with selfish desires projected upon us as “the right thing to do”? This woman on paper is a long-term prostitute and would do herself a lot more good to know her role, stay out of her Sugar Daddy’s other life, and enjoy the gifts. What she wants however is to upgrade her tiny bites at his neck for blood (that he so happily offers up to her) to sucking him dry by taking on his name, assets and title.

Women have flipped the game on it’s side

In the dating world men and traditionalist women are now at a huge disadvantage with gender roles being destroyed by women who hate men (let’s be real here). When a traditional woman who is used to seeing her father give her mother the world asks for the same, a modern guy will have every right to tell her where to shove the request. Getting into a relationship with a man who already has a family is signing an unwritten contract that names you as a madam, a mistress, a goomah, or any number of names for that position. To him you signed on as a piece of ass for pay, not future wife to-be.

It’s the same attitude women have taken with the concept of marriage. I have seen so many naive women issue demands on their future marriage as if their future husband has no say in it. Women who say that they will keep their surnames and their babies will have only their name since they had to carry it… who marries a selfish, unwavering woman like this? The sort of guy who will be home playing super-beta while that woman plays with her co-worker at lunch, that’s who. Why is it okay for these lists, these assumptions, these demands be placed on men as if we will just roll over and let it happen.

Now I am not naive enough to believe that there aren’t men out there who are weak enough to fit neatly into a woman’s world… hell I know a few. But what does it say about a woman who feels it adequate to have a beta yes-man as a walking cardboard cutout to take photos with and show up at events? Why are we barely considered in these decisions that young, unrealistic women present as their want for marriage and more?

Man giving gifts to womanThis aspect of “what have you done for me lately” is the reason why marriage seems more of a bonus to women than anything else for modern men and not this fantasy of yester-year that people will have you believe. Men marry into relationships that turn into power struggles where women have the over because the financial damage has a strong chance of landing squarely on him. We are sold on marriage being a bonus to money (if you’re lucky enough to have a working wife), a bonus to sex (if you are lucky enough to have a sexually active wife), and a bonus to companionship (if you have a wife you can actually tolerate), but the stats, the feminist agenda, and the negatives behind the ring just makes it seem foolish to many men.

Men have acted the fool for so long in relationships

It is for this reason that a young woman can get a Sugar Daddy and wonder at him staying with his wife because the sex is so hot. It is why that caller was dumb enough to believe that her station would receive an upgrade. Men have acted the fool for so long in relationships that it is expected that we will kowtow to the arrogance of a partner with a premade plan for us to live by.

If you are a young man dating and looking towards a future with a real partner in life, you owe it to yourself to stand up for real equality in your relationship. Married men need to stop giving up their good, fair wives for pieces of ass and being docile to the demands of a list that forces conformity. Stop allowing these illusions of the sperm-donor who hangs back in the shadows until summoned from being our reality. It doesn’t have to be, and I can guarantee you that there are a good number of women who will thank you for having the spine to tell them no, and demanding compromise.

This guest post was courtesy of Greg Dragon ( @hobdragon). Check out his Men’s Lifestyle blog Hall of the Black Dragon.

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39 responses to “Those Selfish and Entitled Women That Men Love

  1. Interesting read. The problem is most women are either in two boxes they are trying to chase a dude who fits into their mold of the man who will do everything for them. he usually gives he the constant run around and plays her or she tries to make a man into the man who will do everything for her. Then she made she wasted time on a bum ass dude. The problem is most want a sugar daddy but want to still say they independent

  2. Good to you for standing up brother. We need to revision what authentic manhood looks like. The balance has been skewed by all involved. Authentic manhood is NOT lording it over your woman and subduing her into submission. Authentic manhood is NOT acquiescing to her whimsical demands. Rather, it’s a sacrificial love that guides her to her higher purpose as ordained by God. It is for us to “man up” and shoulder our load.

    • But doesn’t God say a man is suppose to take care and uplift his women. When did these days come that women need to take care of broke ass men

        • 1 Peter 3:7

          Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

          • Exactly…which was the point I gathered from the article and that I was reiterating. I don’t understand why the comment about “broke ass men” came into play.

  3. Man, say all that shit! If it ain’t about equality, then how do you even feel valued as a guy in the relationship? You get the benefit of making her feel benefitted?!! Seeing that women work and earn a living wage, a man forking over cash is no longer a “role”, its really an expectation. Have a back bone, stand up for yourself, she ain’t gone die! Good write bro.

        • Money has a lot to do with it. Why would a man bitch and complain about spending money especially if he does it on his own. Then getting mad when she doesn’t reciporicate? He was trickin on woman. That shouldn’t take away from a man wanting to take care and homor his woman with all he has.

          • If there is honor in spending money, then by that measure a man is even MORE of an honorable man if he spends it on more than one right? Ok. So thats out… Trickin is trickin, even if you got it.

  4. So confused by you men! Yall bitch and complain about so many different things and yall just wont man up and do what you have to do in this world. Always complaining about women when men in the past would just man up and make things happen

    • We are “manning up and making things happen”. What many of us WON’T do is compromise our manhood for the feeling of either being desired or being with someone. I would expect, as a woman yourself, you would understand this.

        • 1.) Yes, I want a woman to cook, clean, and have my back. I cook, clean, and have their back too. Right? Right.

          2.) You obviously missed the point of the article AND the point I was trying to make. Let me clarify: a man should do what it takes to please his woman as long as he is not taken for granted or playing himself. Now THAT is as simple as I can make it.

    • Women in the past are also different from the men in the past. And when I say past I mean “post-industrial”. There was an expectation for men to do the spending. Know why? Women didn’t make it to spend! What’d you expect to happen, him allow her to go hungry? Thats where the writer was talking about fairness from todays standard.

    • Girl you sound four types of lost! LMBO I’m just messing with you, but I don’t understand why you appear to be super charged about this post? You want what you want, but damn.

    • Who are YOU to tell any man anywhere to do ANYTHING??? “Man up”.. hahaha, what do you KNOW about it? NOT A THING! obliviously!

  5. I get the post but where do yall Ve meeting women like this. I think a lot of men over analysis and exaggerate the few women like this.

  6. When I read this, why did my friend pop up in my head???? I think there are women who feel that the relationship is about her, and what ever she wants to contribute every once in a while is enough. I don’t think it’s ironic that men tend to keep those women as friends…. With benefits….

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  15. I don’t agree.To say that a woman shouldn’t expect the same treatment from a man, that her mother received from her father, because she is now a “modern” woman is ridiculous. Women have evolved and either men are going to evolve with women or they aren’t. That doesn’t mean that women should have lower expectations than women of the past. You are comparing a woman who is a mistress to women simply because she is a woman. It’s insulting. Also, I would like to know what you consider a “demanding woman”? Of course a mistress is selfish and demanding (which comes with the territory, she has expectations while he continues to get what he wants). I guess she is supposed to be humble, silent, and just give up the goods like a girl is supposed to. Ridiculous.You don’t know the dynamics of their relationship and you’re assuming that it is only sexual. It is sad to hear men who simply put women in a place of only being of sexual use, even though they are providing more than just sex and $ for them. You say that she states that “her and her child are dependent” on this man. The woman on the phone clearly sounds completely foul and she does have unrealistic expectations, but by no means is she a “long term prostitute.” A man makes the decision of what type of female he wants to be with. A woman isn’t an object that a man simply “tolerates.” That sugar daddy of hers has a large hand that he plays in how she responds to her relationship, as well. The tone of this post is all bad for me. Different relationships have different struggles of power, so what may seem to some as a “weak” man, simply is what works in his relationship which also works well with his character and personality. By the way, not all men will be alpha males. That doesn’t make them less worthy of a good woman and it doesn’t mean in order for them to have happiness they must become cheaters. Not at all. If you don’t want to be with a “demanding woman” simply move on to another woman.

  16. Good read. My reply to this is your opinion could be right in many ways. My ex boyfriend was kind of like a wimp for lack of better words and he wasn’t the most attractive person but I still ‘gave it a shot.’ I SERIOUSLY took advantage of the fact that I can get whatever I wanted whenever I needed it. He spent close to probably $1000 on me within like three months which isn’t big money in most people eyes but it was for me. At the time, my mind was all the way screwed and now that I look back on that relationship it had HELL written all over it, too much drama. The point is I feel bad that I let this guy do all this because he has never had an attractive female before (his words, I’m not that conceited lol). Men and women need to wake up and stop letting those get over them. If you have certain standards, stand by them but don’t let the right one get away.

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